Step 1: Know the Wedding Style
Before shopping, answer these questions:
Is the wedding formal, semi-formal, or casual?
Is it indoors or outdoors?
What season is it?
What are the wedding colors?
What is the venue style (ballroom, beach, garden, church, barn)?
The venue and dress code should guide everything.For black-tie weddings, floor-length gowns are ideal. Think elegance, structure, and refined details.
Best choices:
Long chiffon gowns
Lace overlay dresses
Beaded or subtly embellished bodices
Structured satin silhouettes
Popular colors:
Navy
Champagne
Silver
Deep plum
Emerald
Avoid overly flashy sequins or super dramatic trains unless the bride encourages glamour.
Semi-formal weddings allow more flexibility.
Great options:
Tea-length dresses
Midi-length chiffon dresses
Soft A-line silhouettes
Dresses with sleeves or illusion sleeves
These dresses strike the perfect balance between elegance and comfort.
Casual or Outdoor Weddings4
For beach or garden weddings, comfort and breathability are key.
Ideal fabrics:
Chiffon
Light crepe
Soft cotton blends
Lace with stretch
Colors to consider:
Pastels
Soft florals
Light blue
Sage
Blush
Avoid heavy satin or dark winter tones for outdoor summer ceremonies.
Step 2: Coordinate (Don’t Match) with the Mother of the Bride
Modern etiquette suggests:
The mother of the bride typically chooses first.
The mother of the groom then coordinates in tone and level of formality.
They don’t have to match—but should complement.
For example:
If the mother of the bride wears a navy gown, your mom could wear silver, plum, or champagne.
If the wedding palette is dusty blue and sage, she can stay within that color family.
Communication prevents awkward fashion clashes.
Step 3: Choose a Flattering Silhouette
Every body is beautiful—but the right cut makes all the difference.
A-Line Dresses
Flattering on almost everyone. Defines the waist and flows over hips.
Empire Waist
Great for comfort and soft elegance.
Sheath Dresses
More fitted and modern—ideal if your mom loves sleek styles.
Fit and Flare
Adds structure without being too tight.
Encourage your mom to focus on how she feels in the dress. Confidence matters more than size labels.
Step 4: Sleeves or No Sleeves?
Many mothers prefer some arm coverage—but it’s completely personal.
Popular sleeve options:
¾ lace sleeves
Illusion sleeves
Cap sleeves
Sheer overlays
Boleros and chiffon wraps also offer elegant coverage without bulk.
Step 5: Fabric Matters More Than You Think
The fabric can elevate or cheapen the entire look.
Chiffon
Light, forgiving, elegant.
Lace
Romantic and timeless.
Satin
Structured and formal.
Crepe
Modern and smooth.
Avoid overly stiff materials that limit movement—she’ll be hugging, dancing, and posing all day.
