Even when the person has not died from a contagious cause, the human body goes through certain natural processes after death. Cell breakdown begins quickly, and while it’s not immediately visible, the release of fluids, gases, and toxins is part of the process. This transformation, inevitable and biological, makes contact with certain parts of the body without protection not the most hygienic or safe.
Another important factor is the use of chemicals during body preparation. In funeral homes or wakes, the deceased are treated with preservatives and disinfectants – such as formaldehyde – to slow decomposition and maintain a dignified appearance for the farewell. These products can be toxic in contact with the skin or lips, especially if it is a prolonged kiss or very close to treated areas.
Emotionally, kissing a deceased loved one can create a false sense of closure. Many times, in the eagerness to “say goodbye”, people seek a physical gesture that provides immediate comfort, but this can also deepen the pain instead of relieving it. The image of the lifeless body can become fixed in the memory in a painful way, interfering with the loving memory of the person in life.
It is also necessary to take into account the children and adolescents who may be present. Seeing or imitating this type of action without understanding all the emotional or health aspects can generate confusion or anguish. For this reason, specialists recommend offering other symbolic forms of farewell, such as letters, prayers, family rituals or moments of silence, which allow you to honor the loved one without the need for physical contact.
